Cultural Appropriation and its damage

Cultural Appropriation is, for those who do not know, the act of taking a part of any minority group’s culture. It’s usually white people who get accused the most, seeing as white people are a majority in the west. So If white people try to sell Mexican food that’s cultural appropriation. If a white person dresses in a sombrero, again, that is considered cultural appropriation.

Even if it is fiction

What damage has cultural appropriation caused? Well, it’s closed down several businesses, made several people annoyed and it has made more people intolerant both on the right and the left! The whole concept as a whole, is in it of itself, a uniquely American thing. Hear me out.

There’s a stereotype about Americans that they’re spoiled and that they want everything they see, and that they’re so entitled that they try to speak for everyone. I’ve only seen this sort of behavior on this large a scale in one country. The US. And where did the concept of cultural appropriation come from? The US.

I’m a Swede, which means that my culture is vikings, meatballs, Swedish traditional garb and so on. You don’t see me complaining about the show Vikings. (Swedes are not a majority in the US, after all)

Or when Japanese people dress up in our traditional garb and celebrate Midsommar in a place called Sweden Hill. (Swedes are not a majority in Japan, after all)

Or when the American show, The Muppets make fun of Swedes with the Swedish Chef.

It would be ridiculous if i got mad at any of this. In fact, the only appropriate response is a smile. I fucking love it! And guess what? The rest of the world enjoys it when their culture is featured in any way shape or form as well. And we don’t need a bunch of Americans who has ancestry in other countries, speaking for those countries. The fact that you speak for other countries that you don’t know the first thing about is what makes you American. The fact that you try to stop people from expressing themselves with other cultures ideas is what makes you American! You are an American, not Japanese, not a Swede, not a Russian, not an African, not a Latina; American!

No one owns a trademark on a culture, in fact, cultures are an amalgam of lots of different cultures and countries. Even just the food of all the different countries don’t have their genesis in each respective country. Minute Earth lays it down so that anyone can understand just how small the world really is and just how much we borrow from each other.
Like, in Sweden, it is the culture to celebrate Christmas (Which is in it of itself an amalgam of many different cultures) by watching a Disney special that airs every Christmas. That’s not of Swedish origin. Of course it isn’t! That’s American as shit!

So am i appropriating American culture? And are Americans appropriating my culture? No! You’re just doing what cultures have always done! Intermix. See you on the flipside!

Blaire White and the Abyss.

This is quick response to Blaire White’s latest video:
There’s no cure for gender dysphoria, and the reason is political correctness, yet the experts in the field, according to yourself, classifies it as a mental disorder, even though the politically correct crowd thinks that is a very offensive term. It doesn’t seem like the experts are really held back by the PC crowd.
 
I don’t agree that it’s political correctness holding it back. From what i know about the issue, finding a cure would be about as fruitful as finding one for autism. It’s so much more complicated than a mental disorder. It’s more like the wrong brain in the wrong body. So which one does it make more sense to change: The brain or the body? As you’re probably aware, it works pretty well to change the body, and is way easier to do. So why not just stick to that? Instead of dreaming of some magic pill or brain surgery that will somehow change your entire gender identity without changing some other major key factors in your personality as well! Or make you into a Zombie, like that one study that “cured” a crossdresser of wanting to be the other sex. (Look it up). That’s where that rabbit has lead us.
 
Your conclusion that it’s political correctness is just you seeing the PC police in everything, in my assessment. And that’s coming from someone who is at least as anti-feminist as you. I just think you need to know your confirmation biases. Lest you want to become what you revile.

I like your videos, but this really isn’t one of your best. Cheers!

The road most commonly traveled

For a number of years now, i’ve felt less and less inclined to change genders. I don’t know when i decided to put this little deadline on myself, but i decided that this year’s Autumn was the deadline for my decision. The deadline for when i’ve got to take the road most commonly traveled. The deadline for when i have to move on.

I’m not trans! I’m someone who doesn’t really care about gender identity. Not in myself; not in others (On account on me being a bisexual). Now, i could be one of those who feel like this needs a label, but i’d rather just let people perceive me as they wish, because to me, it doesn’t matter. And since it doesn’t matter, why put a label on it? Why should i be concerned about that?

Sex is a binary. You either have a dick or a vagina. But gender is a matter of many things. We’re all on different levels of masculinity and femininity, so it becomes a gradient. A gradient where you don’t mind appearing as a manly viking, but also don’t mind appearing as a girly girl.

I guess what i’m trying to say is that it doesn’t matter to me, so therefor, i’ll just default to the one i have now, so i don’t have to mess around with the many hardships that HRT, speech therapy and SRS brings. And it feels liberating to write this down. I used to think that my anxiety was linked to gender dysphoria, yet i’ve gone around presenting male all this time, and the anxiety has gone down! Of course, that could be a hidden statistic for all i know. Far be it from me to speak authoritatively on psychology and neurology. So like with everything in my life, i have doubts. I always doubt. But that doubt is down to the same level i have of my doubts that i’m just a brain in a jar in a simulation.

In conclusion, i would advice anyone to just do yourself. Right now, i think the way i’m doing me is a winning formula. I’m feeling better, i’m doing KBT, i’m doing all my hobbies, i laugh, i spend time with friends, and most of all, i’m presenting male. And all of it feels good to me. I feel right.
Of course, you can always develop as a human being and life is a constant self-discovery quest.

The Rape Triangle has a Slippery Slope

This is the Rape Triangle by 11th Principle: Consent, and I’m here to bitch about it:
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First step of the triangle:
  • Rape jokes are just jokes. Get over it!
  • Homophobia, transphobia, sexist attitudes, disclosure of private details has nothing to do with rape.
  • Blaming a victim isn’t isolated to rape. Non-consensual photography isn’t even illegal, and shouldn’t be. If you’re in public, you can’t expect privacy.
  • Unwanted touch that’s not sexual is by definition not rape. And it can also be many things.
  • Trump’s locker room talk is just what insecure morons do. What do you want? Abolish insecurity or just make sure that insecure morons aren’t allowed to talk about their insecure nonsense? Also, i find it extremely funny that this list brings up the Trump locker room thing AND the “disclosure of private details” in the same place! It’s just hilarious! I guess it’s ok to disclose it if it’s Trump.
 
Ok. Next step in the triangle:
  • Cat calls don’t reinforce rape. It’s just something rude people do. But furthermore, there are women who like that sort of shit. I don’t, but thank god i’m not all that attractive. And most Feminists aren’t either, so you don’t have to worry about it either.
  • Dick pics themselves aren’t bad. They can be if they’re unsolicited. But once again, they don’t reinforce some nebulous rape “culture”. I’ve gotten dick pics, and not even once did i feel threatened. And aren’t you referencing Anthony Wiener here? So i’ll have to amend my previous statement. I guess disclosing personal details is ok if it’s a man.
  • Whoever made this stupid thing doesn’t know what revenge porn is.
  • Groping if it’s non-consensual should be illegal, and is very wrong to do.
  • Up-skirt pics that are non-consensual are just creepy and weird. But it doesn’t reinforce some rape “culture”.
  • Threats and stalking aren’t even necessarily sexual.
 
Third step:
I know a guy who was dosed by someone, and my first reaction wasn’t that he deserved it. Surprisingly, without being told, everyone he knew was against it!
Is raping someone under 18 approved by society? I mean, let’s remove the fact that there are some cases that are mitigating and the few cases where a group actually didn’t care (Like a religious sect). Is our culture by and large for it? I would say no. Fuck no!
Groping is here twice. What the fuck! Who wrote this?
Safe word violations? How often does that happen? I’m not into BDSM, but from what i hear in that community, they’re very anal about doing things correctly. So when this happens, it’s a rapist, but once again, how is that cultural?
Sexual coercion is wrong, for sure. But how often does that happen? You’re the one making the claim, so you’re the one who should have some fucking statistics to back them up. But since we’re making unfounded claims, i’m going to make one of my own! I have a sneaking suspicion that the people who agree with this would say most things in our culture is sexual coercion (Like ads and movies and art).
Covert condom removal? Seems very specific? How often does a woman even do that to a man? Or vice versa (which is probably the case as well).
Rape is rape, but it’s pretty much hated by everyone. Well, when i checked, only 0.000002% of people ever rape (Some statistics from Swedish sources).
Incest can be consensual. And it’s not even violent all the time. I agree that it’s creepy and weird, but it doesn’t belong here.
Battery and murder can be sexual, but how often are they even sexual? So i’ll have to ask for the tenth time. How does this reinforce rape?
 
A culture would be if the culture approves of something. The culture doesn’t by in large approve of creepy behavior towards women, let alone rape! All you’re doing when you’re attributing all of this to rape is undermining actual rape.
 
You claim that this is systemic, but it strikes me that something that’s systemic should probably not be against the law. Systemic would imply that it’s legal to murder. Which it’s not.
 
As for your claim that the bottom ones reinforce the upper ones. All you’ve done here is list a bunch of unrelated things and put them in a triangle. Nowhere have you shown a correlation between telling jokes about rape, and murder. Show me that correlation! Show me the chain that leads to it.
 
In conclusion, this is just pseudo-scientific as hell! You can’t just slap shit in a triangle and call it a theory.

I’m priviliged

I’m a very privileged person!
 
I’m diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and panic attack disorder! I live in a country where i’m greatly compensated for my mental illnesses, and i’m given more opportunities than most people on the planet! I’ve been given an opportunity to learn how to handle it, and all the help i could possibly want!
 
I’m a bisexual! The country i live in, and my family, is very accepting of it!
 
I’m poor! More than one occasion, i’ve had to live with basically no money. But my family is very good at helping when i’m the most desperate! And here i am, writing this on a top of the line computer that has three screens and one TV plugged into it, an internet connection that’s top of the line! Three phones, a laptop.. The list goes on! Despite my relative poor income, i’ve been very lucky in getting stuff i want! To be able to live as a techie!
 
I’ve got a physical handicap! My knees are extremely weak, and my kneecaps get disjointed very easily! So i have a problem when it comes to moving around! But i’m lucky to have had multiple bikes in my adult life, and a country that makes the infrastructure such, that i’m able to move around with very little issue!
 
My point is that, i would feel extremely horrible if i ever told someone else that they have privilege, just because they’re not handicapped in any way, or they have a sexuality that i don’t have! There are so many ingredients that go into making a person! Looking at the package without finding out what’s inside is something only a fool does! So i wholeheartedly reject any and all post-modern political dogma!

In which i teach Jennifer Boylan about arguments

About a week ago, i asked someone to simply elaborate on why she would vote for Hillary. And without even arguing against voting such a way, i’m going to demostrate how one Hillary supporter completely fell appart at even the slightest scrutiny of her position!

This is Jennifer Boylan! And i asked her this (A greater context of the conversation):

“Is there literature available that divulges your reasons for supporting Clinton?” Twitter ~JennaGrip

This is a reasonable question, seeing as she had just tweeted her implicit support of Hillary. All i wanted to know was what her reasons for supporting Hillary in the election.
And this was her response and my response to that

“As opposed to Trump? The only literature I have is this piece of paper declaring me sane.” Twitter ~JennyBoylan

“So no real arguments then? Just your typical “lesser of two evils”?” Twitter ~JennaGrip

Which isn’t an argument for something! Simply stating that you hate one candidate isn’t the same as arguing for another! So it’s not an actual argument.

“You’ll find this shocking, but I don’t try to change people’s politics with tweets.” Twitter ~JennaBoylan

Immediately, she goes into defensive mode! Remember, all i wanted was to read something by her, wherein she defends voting for Hillary.

And i’ll have to add to this, that you shouldn’t actually go into trying to change people’s politics ever! Not in Twitter, not on Facebook, not on Instagram, not in an actual argument, not in a lecture! Not ever!
Change in people’s politics comes naturally through argumentation! I realize you don’t do that kind of stuff, but that’s the truth.

But more to the point, i didn’t even ask for that! I know, shocking, right?

That’s why I initially asked. You don’t seem to want to convince anyone anywhere. Twitter ~JennaGrip

The first sentence of my response is dead on, but the second one misread what she actually said. I even said “Convince”. As if she said “I don’t try to change people’s mind on Clinton”. But really, i was just disappointed that she wouldn’t make such an effort anywhere. Even though she does write for various different sites.

Whatever I’m trying to say, I prove it through the fact of my life. My writing’s not bad either. Twitter ~JennyBoylan

Your lived experience means absolutely nothing when it comes to argumentation! Should we automatically take Pat Robertson seriously because of his advanced age? Or maybe good ol’ George H.W? Or maybe we should discount age altogether, huh?

Your writing’s not bad either? Are you saying my writing isn’t bad? Did you mean “My writing’s not bad, either”?
You know, perhaps your writing is better than mine, but since we’re doing adhoms, can i tell you where you got that attitude? By surrounding yourself with Yes Men! Maybe you’ve kept hearing this line of compliments a little too long!

Here’s another thing on this whole “Aheim Bettar ett languich den ju!”. This isn’t my first language. Or second. It’s my third language. So if it’s not up to your highfalutin standard, i’m deeply sorry, oh, wise sage!

Or maybe i misunderstood what you said! After all, i’m just some English is my third language fuck!

Oh, you sweet thing! Twitter ~JennaGrip

This is where any hope of a real conversation ended for me, and i went into troll mode! She was already there, but now i followed suit!

If you want to read the rest, you can check the Greater context, and make up your own mind about this whole mess! I’m just glad to finally have written this, so i can put it behind me!

In summary, i’m very sad about it! Because i used to have a lot of respect for her, but after her horrible handling of even the slightest questioning, i myself have to question her handling of her questioning.

As a funny little extra, i thought it was amusing that, during this back and forth, one of her little sycophants tweeted me this:

Idea that tweeters seeking convincing actually seek to be convinced is hilarious. Twitter Elisa

Yeah, i guess you can assume that about people. Yup! Everyone else is close minded! Not you, though!

Sarcasm aside, i actually do hear people out. Don’t believe me? Then let’s debate, @TrulyTG

A Ramble On Gender Identity.

This is going to be unedited and very rambly. So don’t say i didn’t warn you!

When i was younger, my oldest sister would tell me the name i would have gotten if i was born a girl.
That memory lingers with me to this day.

I woke up this morning with a strange feeling of disattachment to my own body. I look myself in the miror, but i don’t quite see what i wish was there. It couldn’t be my body, because i remember when i started developing a sixpack back when i was much more fit, i was mortified. Somehow, being more fat makes me feel a little better, because it does mask those features. It’s not what i want.
And i’m not too happy about other more male features with myself either… Some of the time. A lot of the time, i can stomach all of it except explicitly being called a man or dude or whatever. That just sits wrong with me all the time. But so does being called a woman when i’m obviously presenting male.

I have had to learn the whole nature aspect of the difference between men and women. Whereas it came naturally to everyone around me, i just couldn’t for the life of me understand why everyone made such a big deal about someone being a girl or a boy. I understand it on an intellectual level now, but being bi, i still don’t make the difference between men and women. For me, it just doesn’t matter. But i do understand the difference, and it’s something that’s good to be aware of. Men tend to be more aggressive and women tend to be more nurturing. The differences that can be attributed generally to men and women are there. It’s nature! Anyone can look up the differences of brain anatomy, secondary sexual features and gender dimorphism.

I’m ok with being a man in society, because i definetely don’t feel the massive gender dysphoria that a lot of transsexuals feel. In fact, i question whether or not i even have it. Am i just gender confused? Am i trans?

One thing that’s holding me back is the frame i have to work with! I’m not so sure i would look so good as a woman. I mean, i enjoy the girlier things in life like makeup, skirts, nailpolish and stuff. But yeah..

Suffice it to say, i’m conflicted. Because i feel that i should just move on and live my life as it is, but on the other hand, these feelings keep plauging me. I can live this way fairly easily, but part of me doesn’t want to. I feel really good when i get to express myself this other way, but more than i’m happy to admit, i feel weird about it.

For several reasons, i decided to stop with my “investigation” (As they call it) in the transsexual clinic, because it just wasn’t worth it. The bad outweighed the good. What does that say about me? I’ve already admitted to myself that i don’t feel too strongly about it, but that there is some feeling there! So it would go without saying that my other priorities, which would have been impossible or more difficult to do if i had continued with the investigation, would take precedence.

Some of my friends have told me to try hormones for a few months to see how i feel after that. Or to just live as a woman for a while. But getting the hormones is a difficult task. Because either i have to go through the system where i get a million dumb questions just so that they can be sure that i’m of sound mind, or i get them illegally. But illegally would mean that i had to trust the person selling it, i would have to messure the effect myself, i would have to be careful about the dosage, etc.

I’m not sad about this at all. It just puts me in a very contemplative mood! Because i don’t really know what to make of these feelings!

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